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May 03, 2006 |
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The Closer I Get to You
FOUND by Emily Campbell
in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
I just found this note on the street last night. Everyone that I was standing with fell silent when I read it, and there was a quiet until someone said, "Yep, that's pretty much it isn't it." Enjoy.
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This find helped me leave my abusive ex. I hadn't checked this site in a while, but when I did one day last May, I found someone was able to put into words part of the struggle I was going through.
I return to it whenever I need a gentle reminder to stay away.
I used to think this was sweet and that it would be true about love. I fell in love with someone and I feel incredibly close to him and also close to myself.
I can be me with him. That's love.
That's profound.
This is amazing. I think that every woman who is in a relationship should read this. It will honestly open eyes to who is worth staying with.
Incredibly powerful.
Just every woman?
I was terrified when I lost all sense of self during my marriage.I couldn't recall if I liked something because I truly did or because he told me to.Can you say psychological abuse boys and girls?? Brain washing 101
wow...that was like a punch in the face.. it made me cry. i dont ever want to feel like that again, i'd rather stay single
this is how i've felt for a very long time but could never truly express my feelings.
this small piece of paper did all that i could and more in twelve words.
ow.
This really made me think, what a find. doesn't have to be a romantic relationship either i don't think...
Interesting how some think this is true love and some think this is true control....!
When my love noticed i was taking on his personality he went crazy. Now he's medicated and maybe he can be rational and realize that I just love him, and like the person he is, and so what if a few things rub off, and so what if he's crazy, he brings happiness.
Men can, and do, experience this feeling as well.
I can vouch for that.
This makes me grateful for the man I married. I went through too many relationships where I wasn't me and finally found the man who loves me for who I am and will never try to change me......and knows I will never try to change him.
You know, I wonder what a handwriting expert would say, whether this was written by a man or a woman... Andrew and Jimmy are right, relationship issues can't be just a woman's domain...
i find this not sums up teen realationships exactly...
girl falls for her guy friend...the closer she gets to him
the more distant he becomes towards her
This is probably the single most thought provoking find on this site. Wow.
I am disgusted by the other women on this page, I feel for you guys. Men have feelings too, if they didn't, where would love get us?
Sounds like boo-hoo Tori Amos or Jewel blather, or a pithy line from some romantic comedy (Julia, Jen, Sandra… take your pick).
I'm not a handwriting expert, but I do know basic graphoanalysis: All of the open "o" characters indicate this person can't be trusted with secrets or confidences: big mouth. The lack of upstroke at the end of words indicates a lack of optimism. The large, juicy quality of the letters defies introversion -- this person is outgoing. And, more women than men use circles for periods or to dot letters.
"The large, juicy quality of the letters defies introversion -- this person is outgoing."
You've just contradicted yourself there, what do you mean?
This brings to mind that morrissey song, "the more you ignore me the closer I get". It's sad I think, but what a find.
Trite but pithy.
I think she/he found somebody, and fell in love with them, but the closer they got to this person, the less they felt like themselves. Almost like they become somebody they aren’t, just to be close to this person.
The closer I get to you, the further I feel from me.
no matter how many close relationships I've had, this one note sums up how I've always felt.
how depressing.
Sounds like someone who should avoid someone destructive or a manipulator. I say that based on the change i see people go through to try to be someone else to please the un-pleaseable.
Oh boo hoo. This is such a pathetic note. It's like the bullshit phrase "i love you but i'm not in love with you." What the hell do they mean? This is what they mean: I want to break up with you, I am not happy. There, said and done.
Now, here is your kleenex. It is time to move on.
(You are not a unique and beautiful snowflake, I'm sorry.)
it sounds so beautiful and sad at the same time you know like a weird vibe
This is about as original as a tatoo that says "Born to Lose."
On the other hand, I love the comment above mine. I really do know how a weird vibe can sound so beautiful and sad at the same time. Yep. I just can't think of an example right now.
p. in montreal said:
"The large, juicy quality of the letters defies introversion -- this person is outgoing."
You've just contradicted yourself there, what do you mean?
defies = going against.
therefore, the statement above says that the large loopy letters goes against introversion (being within oneself, shy). Ergo, the person is outgoing. Extroverted.
I think what it means - or at least what it means to me - is that sometimes you stop worrying about yourself and your own feelings and focus fully on your significant other, but not in a good way. You're unhappy, but you ignore this unhappiness because you want to be with this person so badly and you don't even know why. That's just love.
I agree with G....but it doesnt necessarily mean love...just escape.
I like to think of love as a light switched on in a hall of mirrors. It bounces back and forth and we all grow brighter than before.
It makes me sad to think of how many people are in the kind of love that absorbs light but doesn't give any back. Why do we have to lose part of ourselves in order to be so close to someone else? Why can't we love each other and ourselves and everything more in one another's presence?
I'm working on it myself.
Wow. I am always amazed by the capacity of some people who comment on this site to be so utterly bitter, mean and shallow.
it is the law of the human heart; a few words to describe how love is rarely perfect and often given blindly..
WOW! Finally, my lifelong feelings and experiences have been put to simple, concise words! I could have written this!
Steve in Denver:
It really is like Tori, Jewel etc... and this is the reason why they're so popular with women. We as woman are just naturally designed to analyze our feelings, most of us can't help it, any more than Men can help scratching their butts, adjusting their junk and zoning out when women talk about their feelings. <g>
Being single isn't the worse thing in the world... or as Oprah said, "The worse thing than being married is waking up and wishing you were."
the closer i get the farther i fall. lol
to tori in south cackalackie:
"we as women are just naturally designed..." i am sorry but as sociologist i must disagree with you. humans have no instinct; we learn by observation. there are many men out there that analyze feelings. making fun of men is never going to bridge the gender gap. this is a note of truth and should be respected.
Tori wrote: "...any more than men can help scratching their butts, adjusting their junk and zoning out when women talk about their feelings."
God damn, girl, that's so purty it just about made me cry. I mean it. Deep down, men just want to be understood too. If you like you-know-what and football, heck, you could have just about any man you want.
And Tink in Boise, Idaho: You're right, we're looking to bridge the gender gap most of the time, we just don't know how to ask properly.
Thanks, I feel better already!
This is sad. :(
I readthis and it hurt, as I can understand it.. but I explain it as they are so lost in that person they feel incomplete when they are not around...
this is really sad. I hope that I never have to go through this. If I ever do, please remind me that it's not worth it.
This could be either a positive or a negative situation. Maybe I want someone to think about other than myself, and it's a joy to be able to do this. I like that idea.
Im in a relationship where I find myself becoming someone else, doing things so unlike me, jst to please the guy I'm with. Who knows why?? I dont anymore....
I've lost so much of myself, I dont even know how much is left.
Wow. This affected me so much. I'm married and feeling the same way now, not sure who I am outside of being a wife anymore and just wow. :(
This just about sums up a relationship I had.