July 07, 2002

March 22
FOUND by Melissa Bontempo in Ohio University, Ohio
This book was found next to a dumpster at Ohio University. I can't remember the date, but I probably found it near the spring of 2000. It belonged to an old woman who had presumably passed away recently. Other personal items, including a handwritten joke book, a funeral register, and a sheet of paper that listed all her medical conditions were nearby. This book is several decades old. The cover says "Birthdays" and is re-bound with tape. Other than birthdays, she recorded facts from her life, when each of her friends died, anniversaries, the circumstances of her pet's death, surgeries, etc. I found this page, where she notes her husband's burial particularly heartbreaking, as she retraced her own words repeatedly.
Julie
This is the reason why I love Foundmagazine. Although I have no idea who this woman was, this one slip of paper gave me such insight into her life. Her sorrow is heartbreakingly apparent through only sixteen words. I hope she and Joe have found peace.
+ October 22, 2006 01:55 PM +
Mary
I agree, Julie. Its a real privilege to see some of these snippets of other's lives. This is one of the special ones.
+ October 29, 2006 04:35 AM +
Mary in Cleveland, Ohio
this is my all-time favorite find. it broke my heart.
+ December 21, 2006 01:40 PM +
Sara in San Antonio
This made me cry.
+ December 29, 2006 05:33 PM +
Lindsay B in MD
How horribly sad...I would feel the same way after losing my husband. I wish I could of held her and taken away some of her sorrow and lonliness.
+ January 28, 2007 05:16 AM +
Jon in La Mirada, CA
This hurts to read because one day my wife will die and my world will collapse (or more likely, I will die and her world will collapse). It helps to remind me that we're all participating in the same pattern, and that there's no escaping so much of it. Every earthly joy is stained with pain.

In the face of the inevitability of death, the printed words on the page take on fresh meaning, though it feels ironic.

Kyrie Eleison
+ January 30, 2007 04:52 PM +
Madison in DC
Heartbreaking... but probably my favorite in Found. Thank you also for the background.
+ January 31, 2007 08:14 AM +
Penny in London, UK
This find is so sad. It seems really valuable to me and I have never met or heard of the woman it belonged to. I can't believe her relatives or friends discarded the book like they did.
+ February 02, 2007 07:20 AM +
mallory in Tennessee
this is amazing. the way she re-traced the words moved me more than i can say.
+ February 07, 2007 09:41 PM +
Erin in Indiana
this one gave me a horrible, stabby heart pang. :( so sad. the sentiment of the note itself is sad, but thinking that either her family threw this type of thing away, or maybe she just had no family or friends left to collect her belongings just makes me want to cry. this is a great find, really remarkable and memorable, to me anyway.
+ February 15, 2007 03:16 PM +
SA Chick in SA TX
Wow. It's too bad there was no one in her family to keep this. How sad.
+ March 14, 2007 12:40 PM +
Slashcat standing in the rain
This made me cry, too. And made me a little envious that she maintained a deep love for her husband over the years...

>^-^<
+ March 27, 2007 11:19 AM +
laura in England
and this is why i wish to die before any of my close friends/partner. Its heatbreaking to let go.
+ March 31, 2007 10:37 AM +
Nicole in my own private hell
This makes me sad because I imagine this is how my grandmother felt after my grandfather died. She probably still feels this way.

God, what I wouldn't give to find a love that was as strong as theirs, that would last me my whole life...
+ May 07, 2007 01:04 PM +
manda in the middle
wow. this is the only found/postsecret that elicited a tear from me. such pain, so raw. and the red pen, retraced over and over...

i echo:

kyrie eleison
kyrie eleison
kyrie eleison...
+ May 08, 2007 10:27 AM +
manda in the middle
wow. this is the only found/postsecret that elicited a tear from me. such pain, so raw. and the red pen, retraced over and over...

i echo:

kyrie eleison
kyrie eleison
kyrie eleison...
+ May 08, 2007 11:22 AM +
Casey in Cleveland heights
I attended OU from 00-04. This piece strikes me with particular sadness. I wonder if I ever saw this woman, maybe sitting on her porch. Or maybe I walked past her grave on my way to one of my classes. Haunting.
+ June 01, 2007 07:15 PM +
Gabi in Miami, Florida
That date on the page is my birthday
+ June 30, 2007 03:44 PM +
orinoco womble in wimbledon common
So moving, especially as my SO's name is Joe, too. And I know exactly what she means when she says "God have mercy on him." And when he travels on, my life will collapse around me too. And yet, we go on living. Eheu.
+ July 19, 2007 02:10 PM +
Tina in the lonliest time of her life
It's sad to me, how her writing becomes print, and the last few lines look reckless and climb upwards, like she started crying. I can only imagine...
+ August 22, 2007 08:06 PM +
JessicaPC in SC
I want to cry...
+ October 07, 2007 10:21 PM +
Jess in Lewes, UK
This is beautiful. The thing that humbles me most is the fact that her handwriting starts fluidly and purposefully, but by the end you can see she struggles to carry on. The last phrase "God have mercy on him" is especially tragic as her writing becomes child-like, reflecting how we become so fragile and broken with the impact of death. We have all and will all feel like this someday.
+ October 24, 2007 02:49 PM +
David in La Mirada, CA
Hello to Jon in La Mirada!
+ October 31, 2007 12:28 AM +
gool in ng the finder's name
http://www.bod.ch/index.php?id=1132&objk_id=845

+ November 17, 2007 10:45 PM +
Jonathan in UK
To Penny (not my sister-in-law Penny??), Laura, Orinoco, Jess: a hug and love to you all in UK. Maybe we'll meet one day.
And to Julie and Manda and Tina and Jessica and all of you wherever we all are.
Too moving for words, and our hearts go out to this poor lady. x
+ November 24, 2007 07:58 PM +
Z in Tennessee
This broke my heart. It reminds me of what my grandmother used to do with her pocket calendars. She would use them as her diaries to make notes of her friends, her family, herself. So sad.
+ December 07, 2007 01:48 PM +
Elle in the edit room
This is probably the saddest find ever. And most real. It's a find that expresses real pain and pain that we have/will have at some point in our lives.

What a contrast between the prayer and what she writes.
+ February 03, 2008 09:38 AM +
Kira
Seems rather crazy and disturbed to me.
+ February 19, 2008 04:45 PM +
Linda in Iowa
This is so beautiful and heart-wrenching. I hope this lady and her husband are reunited together forever. This brought tears to my eyes...a thousand words could not express what these do in this honest, graphic find.
+ February 27, 2008 10:47 PM +
miss gredenko
Requiem aeternam. Dona eis, Domine, et lux perpetua luceat eis.
+ May 02, 2008 04:18 PM +
Jason on Tampa in Tampa
No poem, no movie, no saying, no song, no art, no book, and, indeed, no mere words or symbols in any form contain a more powerful expression of the human condition than this woman's simple and sincere expression of grief. She lays the soul naked, without pride, without shame, and without pretense. As Linda in Iowa said, this dear woman's words are at once "beautiful and heart-wrenching."
+ May 28, 2008 06:01 PM +
John in Michigan
This is my birthday, kind of depressing to know that the day that celebrates my life on was was also a day that death brought such sadness.
+ August 31, 2008 03:02 PM +

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